A Conversation with Love.

"Yesterday I had a conversation with Love.

She was a lot shorter than I imagined. Less elegant. A slight-frame, lean build… a square-jaw and a great smile… Her skin was thick, but soft. Her voice was light and musical. Her sentences were symphonies."

"She had a long memory, but lived in the moment. She could reminisce without recounting…. recall without reminding… She never sweated the small stuff, but always remembered the little things. "

"Love washed the dishes."

"She had seen a lot. Time wasn’t always kind to her. Experience broke promises. Expectation told lies… She had bruises. Wounds. The bottoms of her feet were rough and tired. And at one point, she became bitter. She began to question the voyage"

"Growing up, she’d often get confused with her sister, Lust.... They were both spontaneous and free, but Lust had a shorter attention span… she could never focus. Lust was always the life of the party. Lust passed out the cake and poured the champagne."

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Kash Shaikh 

www.besomebodyblog.com

To the love unrequited: You are yet to find your first and last Love

You are one in a world of seven billion people, how can you have already met the best possible person for you? Love has got so much to do with luck - do not be disappointed, do not feel hurt and do not feel you are not worthy if you are alone in love. Someone whom you truly understand and who can understand and appreciate you back exists out there - often we are not able to find that person at the time we want - be patient, you will meet that someone, it always happens, but it sometimes requires a test of our patience and a test of our belief in ourselves.

The Myth of Unconditional Love

"The truth is if someone doesn’t respect me or my needs, I am under no obligation to love them. I will treat every human being with a certain level of respect and dignity, but beyond that, it is my choice when I love and who I love. In fact, it is healthy to have standards for the people I care about. My standards and personal boundaries are there to protect me from further abuse. Nobody who loves me would abuse me, and I have no reason to love anyone who would abuse me. I’ve broken free from the idea of unconditional love and it feels good." - Jennifer Stuck

Read Jennifer's full article here 

Remedies for Unrequited Love

From the Wikipedia: "Ovid in his Remedia Amoris 'provides advice on how to overcome inappropriate or unrequited love. The solutions offered include travel, teetotalism, bucolic pursuits, and (ironically) avoidance of love poets'."

Add three more things to the list: 1. Avoid love songs, 2.  Avoid romantic movies and 3. Seek the help of a professional/doctor if possible and do Not seek advice on love from your friends.

Lydia's Blog

"got feeble without you babe. 

i never forget anything ever.

"Don't be defeated. I saw the Colosseum yesterday. That place is defeated, and logically, because you are not the Colosseum, you are not defeated.""

 Lydia maintains a lovely blog and a mind boggling usage of words and literary skills: "Conversations in Love" at http://lydiamouse.blogspot.com

 

Love's all in the brain: fMRI study shows strong, lateralized reward, not sex drive

 "Humans have evolved three distinct but interrelated brain systems for mating and reproduction – the sex drive, romantic love, and attachment to a long term partner," Fisher said, "and our results suggest how feelings of romantic love might change into feelings of attachment. Our results support what people have always assumed – that romantic love is one of the most powerful of all human experiences. It is definitely more powerful than the sex drive."

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Why I would choose the Volkswagen over the Ferrari :-)

Love is about compatibility. The word is compatibility Not similarity. Compatibility in experiences with life, maturity, interests, body type, temper, problem solving abilities, beliefs and principles. You can add to the list. Think about it, we all cannot afford a Ferrari, but most of us have a reliable people's car in our garage.

Love is Chemistry

When romantic love first touches us, the desire is high to let the rush of love take over us. If your body and mind has never been exposed to such a kind of love and you let yourself indulge in first love's massive release of pleasure chemicals, chances are you will end up in a very deep addiction before even you have a clue :-) and if, God forbid, your love is not reciprocated, a mind and body deprived of pleasure chemicals can lead to depression. So, fall in love with eyes Wide Open. Love is happiness and positive energy that is exchanged constantly between two persons in love.  If you are already deeply in love with someone who has not reciprocated your love, realize that the positive energy is not being exchanged. There is No One Person in the world that can make you feel as good. Do the simple math - you are one in a world of 7 billion people. If you have already met 10 potential life partners, your chance of having already met the best possible person for you is close to 10 divided by 7 billion or 1 divided by 700 million. The chance of winning the jackpot in Mega Millions is 1 divided by 175 million. You will certainly meet someone who will make you feel better. So tell yourself the obvious - and move on. Once someone makes you feel understood and valued, and makes the extra effort to stay close to you, chances are she or he will give you those decades of everyday blissful happiness. Stay close to that person even though the chances of meeting someone better will always remain :-) .

Love Cross Culture

"Whatever the case, I have only the greatest respect for couples that choose love above all else; who treat differences in culture, as something to be explored, not deplored.

Whoever said that love stories were a thing of the past was wrong. Some of the greatest love stories are happening as we speak, between couples who, just like Romeo and Juliet, fight for their love despite disapproval and misunderstanding, from families and friends."

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Note from Anna @ Opinionator

"I feel profoundly lucky to have had both a very secure early attachment to my parents and to have a wonderful and fulfilling marriage. I do feel like there is a fair amount of luck involved (an unfair amount perhaps). I didn't pick my parents and although my husband and I picked each other, we were both young and naive. We had no idea what we were really getting in to. I sometimes feel like it was the smartest decision I have ever made to marry the person I did, but really, I know that's like congratulating yourself for picking the right lottery number."

Read the full article by Diane and the comment from Anna